Recipe: Love Roast

Recipe for Love

Bryan and I were discussing this blogging business and he said that recipes are a huge hit in the blogosphere.

Well, shoot. I am not much of a cook (or a cook at all)

But this is a little more in my wheelhouse:

Love Roast Recipe


2 people that love each other (you can even just really like each other at this point but be prepared for love to happen)

1 pound of listening

4 tablespoons of trust

4 tablespoons of compassion

2 cloves of cuddling

1 cup of undivided attention

1 bunch of gratitude

2 pounds of gentleness

5 shakes of adoration

3 gallons of patience (or more, depending)

Sprinkle kisses to taste

1 Otis Redding album


Warm up the space where you will be sharing time. Put some Otis Redding on the music machine to set the mood. Turn off the television, put the kids to bed, and put the phones away.

Whisk listening, trust, compassion, cuddling, attention, gratitude, gentleness, adoration, patience, and kisses all together on a couch or soft comfortable surface.

Ask your partner “How are you?”

And, really listen to the answer. This is the tricky part, really listen without waiting to speak or offering an opinion or solution.

Then, ask a few questions  about what they said (to show you were really listening)

Next, flip it and reverse it, and now the other partner ask “How are you doing?” and repeat the above steps.

Continue to mix in a lot of touching, cuddling, and kissing (kiss for at least six seconds each time).

“A six-second kiss is a kiss with potential.” – John Gottman

Make sure to tell each other how grateful you are for them and how much you appreciate what they do for you and others.

Marinate in this for at least an hour until the emotions are nice and thick.

Continue to sprinkle kisses.

You should now have a nicely browned Roast of Love.

“Try a little tenderness, yeah, watch her groove
You’ve gotta to know what to do, man
Take this advice”
– Otis Redding, Try A Little Tenderness

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