I think we have cultivated extremely unhealthy hurrying habits.
We race around from task to task without looking up or around at life around us.
We go about our days like: I need to get this done, then I need to get this done, then I need to get this done, then when all of those things get done, I can rest and enjoy life. The problem with that line of thinking is there is always something that needs get done.
What’s worse, is that we encourage this behavior in each other. We race around making ourselves sick and stressed thinking it’s what we are supposed to be doing.
After all, these things need to get done.
Then, we proudly share with each other all the things we got done and all the things we still have to do! We respond by nodding our heads like,“Don’t I know it!”
You will never catch the carrot so stop chasing it. Really, there is no carrot (did that sound like The Matrix?).
The carrot is a mindset. It’s faulty thinking.
The idea of I’ll rest when _________.
OK, we’ve all reached the when and what happens?
POOF another I’ll rest when ______ comes up.
It goes on and on like that if you let it. It feels like avoidance to me. Like, I got to stay busy to have value and worth as a person. When I see someone in traffic losing their mind (hitting the horn and slamming the steering wheel) because the person in front of them did not burn out and race off when the light turned green. It makes me a bit curious.
Who am I if I stop racing around trying to do things?
I propose a both/and solution to the race to death.
Let’s try this: I’ll enjoy life AND I’ll work towards __________ (insert your daily tasks and long term goals).
I bet you have at least a few things about your life to appreciate right now.
Why not try to both enjoy your life and get stuff done at the same time?
How is that possible?
Pause, a lot. Yes, pause.
Just a few moments throughout your day.
Notice what’s happening in your world.
“It’s a beautiful day”
“It’s a rainy day”
I live in a beautiful part of the world where we have seasons. I love to look out the window at work and notice the changing colors. I know it sounds flighty or silly but it’s not. It’s serious business intentionally enjoying life.
I think it makes me more productive and appreciative of my life when I take moments out of my day to intentionally notice what is happening around me.
For example, when you feel the need to rush, try and slow down. Take a few deep breaths. Appreciate the sound of the world happening around you. Appreciate your cuddles with your dogs and or/cats. Appreciate your children laughing and smiling. Appreciate all the sights and sounds around you. Have a little dance party in your car or at your desk. Why not, even appreciate the challenges.
I promise, life goes so fast there is no sense in rushing, time will move forward anyway.
What makes me super sad is when people spend their lives chasing the “carrot” and then they realize that they missed all of these precious moments with the people they love.
So please, pause. You will get there and you will get it all done and it will be fine.