I wanted to take a moment to consider the words/phrases/ideas/thoughts that have washed over me and shaped me.
You only live once – Trina
Trust yourself – My grandmother
My Dear, you have to learn how to take care of yourself – My grandfather
Tell the truth, tell the truth, tell the truth – The opening quote in Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert
It’s okay to be sad sometimes – My husband
What are your values, what is really important to you – Josh
Most people won’t remember this – My mother-in-law
I am so proud of you – My brother
Cry yourself to sleep all you want, you’re not going to that party – My mom
Don’t cheat, people won’t want to play with you if you lie to them – My dad
Think critically about this. It’s never simple – Dr. Krishnakali Majumdar
You have to always be examining your own biases and prejudices and how they influence your thoughts and behaviors – Dr. David Pilgrim
You have to use laundry detergent, not just fabric softener! – My sister
Don’t forget the spiritual aspect – Kevin
Are you going to eat that?
You eat after 8pm?
Are you going to have another glass of wine?
What will your boyfriend think about this?
Shhh, your laugh is too loud
You’re too opinionated
You care too much
I think you are acting this way because your parents divorced
You grew up in a home with a lot of conflict and you don’t know how to communicate (that’s why my son hit you)
Everything happens for a reason
Your writing is awful
I should give you the “I like to show a lot of skin award” – Middle School Teacher
I don’t know why you feel that way
You don’t have kids, you don’t understand
Your husband wants kids and you won’t give them to him?
Are you some sort of lesbian?
Stop talking already
Words are powerful. What we say matters. I am not innocent; I know I have injured people with my words. The aforementioned phrases, both good and bad, left a permanent imprint on me. They shaped my experiences and I carry them with me.
What phrases shaped you?
“Words are things. You must be careful, careful about calling people out of their names, using racial pejoratives and sexual pejoratives and all that ignorance. Don’t do that. Some day we’ll be able to measure the power of words. I think they are things. They get on the walls. They get in your wallpaper. They get in your rugs, in your upholstery, and your clothes, and finally in to you.”