“When the night has been too lonely
and the road has been too long
And you think that love is only
for the lucky and the strong
Just remember in the winter
far beneath the bitter snow
Lies the seed that with the sun’s love,
In the spring becomes the rose” – The Rose, Bette Midler
The Curious Rose Meditation
Please rest your eyes and take a few deep and full breaths
Now imagine you are holding a rose in your hands.
Please a few moments to look at and imagine this flower as if you are seeing a rose for the first time.
Sight, what do you see, take your time and examine all aspects of the flower
Sound, what do you hear in the space happening around you
Smell, what do you smell when you focus on the rose
Feel, how does the rose feel physically, how do you feel emotionally about the rose
Taste, we don’t often eat flowers but I suppose you could taste it if you wanted
Notice how naturally and without force the rose goes from a bud to full bloom
Notice how each rose is different and how each individual flower is perfectly imperfect
Notice how we don’t judge the rose for budding, blooming, or being in full bloom
Notice how gently we handle the rose because we don’t want the petals to fall
Notice how we don’t judge the rose for having thorns
Notice how we as people are always at some stage from bud to full bloom
In different aspects of our life we may be buds, we may be growing, and we may be in full bloom
Perhaps in relationships I’m only a bud but at work I am blooming.
Notice how we punish ourselves for not being in full bloom but we don’t punish the rose
Notice how each person is different and now each one of us is perfectly imperfect
Notice how we all have thorns to keep us safe and depending on our life experiences, we may have more thorns than others or bigger thorns. Notice how we judge ourselves for trying to keep ourselves safe.
Notice how harshly we handle ourselves and then get mad when parts of ourselves fall apart
Now please return to focusing on the beauty of the perfectly imperfect rose you are holding in your hand
Now please consider the way you and all people are like the rose you hold in your hand.
Stop and Smell The ROSES
R: Recognize what you are feeling and what you are thinking
O: Open with curiosity and gentle kindness to what you are feeling and thinking
S: Safety (thorns) do you feel safe is there something you can do to make yourself feel safe
E: Experience what you are feeling and thinking without judgment or harshness
S: Soothe yourself in loving, kind, and compassionate ways